top 5 reasons honesty is the best policy in online dating
Many people carry the constant pressure of being judged by potential matches and dates into the virtual world of online dating. People often feel the need to *cough, cough* embellish the truth about who they are, what they do or even simple things like their favorite foods or movies. While there’s no FDA policing online dating, there are solid reasons and benefits to being honest in the online dating world. We’ve come up with our top 5 tips to turn your profile from prince to frog, and in return you’ll meet someone who loves you warts and all.
5 The Big Payback
4 The Truth Can Set You Free
Other than sociopaths and spies, very few people actually ever practice lying. As a result, they end up being the only two types of people who are really any good at it. For the rest of us, lying is just a fabricated web of delusion that we’ll have to memorize and painstakingly track. Lies can become larger and more interconnected. Eventually, this web will ensnare us when two lies contradict or when we can’t remember the “facts” at a given moment. There’s already plenty of stress in the early days of a relationship—why add any more problems to that stew?
3 It’s Not Easy Being Green (With Envy)
What’s the best way to cause lasting friction between lovers? Be dishonest. Yes, even small lies (e.g. lying about height, weight, age, etc.) will throw up a flag to any reasonable would-be lover. You‘re bound to leave him or her wondering what other secrets you’re hiding, especially while forming a new connection.
2 The Point Is Not to Disappoint
What happened to the 6’7” swarthy firefighter she fell for online? Instead, she showed up to find little old you. Think she’ll easily bounce back from that little lie? Doubt it. When you’re honest about who you are, what you do and how you feel, you won’t run the risk of disappointing someone who’s already taking a risk by meeting you in the first place.
1 To Thine Own Self Be True
Here’s the honest truth about dating: You’re not trying to attract the most outgoing mate nor even the most attractive. You’re really not looking for the tallest, blondest, smartest or richest. You’re trying to attract the perfect complement to you. If you’re not into climbing Mount Everest, there’s no need to say you are. Sure, you may falsely attract the guys and girls who are, but you could just as easily exclude the ones who would rather swallow a bee than go hiking.